You’re not lazy, you’re overwhelmed.

Let’s clear something up straight away: you are not lazy.
You are tired. You are stretched. You are carrying more than anyone can see. And you’ve probably been running on empty for a while now, telling yourself you just need to try harder.

But the truth? You don’t need more hustle. You need more care.

The invisible weight you carry
If you’re a woman over 30—especially if you’re a mum, a carer, or the one people “lean on”—you’re likely carrying the mental load of a small village. Grocery lists, school lunches, unread emails, emotional check-ins, aging parents, forgotten appointments, bills, workouts, “me time” (what’s that again?)… it never ends.

And when your brain is juggling that much, of course things like exercise, self-care, or even basic tasks feel hard. Not because you’re lazy. But because you’re burnt out.

Why we confuse exhaustion with laziness:
You scroll Instagram and see people smashing 6am workouts and eating air-fried kale and think: “Why can’t I just do that?”
But here’s the thing: you’re not living the same life they are. Maybe you’re waking up four times a night with a toddler. Maybe you’re working 40+ hours a week and still trying to hold everything together at home. You’re running a marathon with no finish line—and no one handing you water along the way.

Of course your motivation is low. You’re in survival mode.

What you really need:
1. Permission to rest – Guilt-free. You don’t have to earn it by collapsing.
2. One small win – Start with one thing that feels doable. A 5-minute stretch. A deep breath before bed. A kind word to yourself.
3. Support – Whether it’s a coach, a friend, or a podcast that lifts you up—don’t try to do life alone.

A mindset shift that changes everything:
Instead of asking “Why can’t I get it together?”, try asking:
“What would support look like for me right now?”

Maybe it’s dropping the all-or-nothing mindset. Maybe it’s moving your body because it feels good, not to punish yourself. Maybe it’s reaching out and saying, “Hey, I need help.”

Because you’re not broken. You’re not failing. You’re just human.

And you, my friend, are doing the best you can with what you’ve got. And that deserves way more credit than you’ve been giving yourself.