Loving Someone with PTSD: When You’re the Partner Holding the Space
Living with someone who has PTSD can feel like you’re walking a tightrope. You love them deeply, but some days, the weight of it all feels like too much.
You see their pain—even when they try to hide it. You may experience emotional distance, intense mood shifts, triggers you don’t fully understand, and moments of shutdown or withdrawal. And while you want to be their safe space, you may find yourself silently struggling too.
Here’s what you need to know:
You’re not selfish for feeling overwhelmed. Caring for someone with trauma doesn’t mean you should ignore your own emotional needs.
You may experience compassion fatigue. Constant hyper-awareness of their triggers can leave you feeling anxious or drained.
Guilt and resentment can coexist. You might feel guilty for wanting space—but that doesn’t mean you don’t care.
You deserve support too. You’re holding a lot. Whether it’s therapy, support groups, or even just a trusted friend—you need a place to process and heal.
PTSD doesn’t just affect the person who lived through the trauma—it ripples into relationships, families, and day-to-day life. Seeking help as a partner is not a betrayal of them—it’s an act of love for both of you.
You can be supportive without losing yourself. You can love them and take care of you. Both are possible.